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Jeff Brain said
Thanks for commenting on my blog. I didn’t know of your book but sounds very interesting. Just picked up two copies – one for me and one for our director of counseling. Lets stay in touch.
Jeff
Marcia said
Thanks so much for the kind posting. I hope the book is helpful and would be happy to stay in touch.
Jesse said
I need help! My 16 (he will be 17 in August) is out of control! I don’t know what to do any more!
Marcia said
Jesse,
I’m very sorry to hear about your problems with your son. I would point you to my book so you can learn what worked for other parents and what the experts say. I also have some resources listed at the back of the book and on one of the posts on my site. http://strainedrelations.wordpress.com/resources/
Good luck with your son.
Marcia
adrienne said
I responded a week or two ago to an ad ” Problem Teens” opened it and found you.
Well I guess I am too late….. My son 19 adopted and developmentally delayed and border line MR.
” Mom you are gonna kill me” said my son as he walked through the door today. I said no son what’s wrong. Sit down together we will work it out no matter what” Prepared to hear the worst we sat down.
Then he held up his cell phone showing an ultra sound picture. All I could think of is how badly he just screwed up his life. He has already been in trouble with the Police (they no him by name) He only has a certificate of acheivment, Not a High School diploma. He really just dosent get it.He is very literal, very black and white. can’t not read or write well, due to his menatally challanged situatation. Please help me tell me it is NOT to late. We have a blended family and became grandparents to a beautiful boy,My husbands daughter(age25 unmarried) Not a problem she is grown up and lives with her Mom,and every thing is great its all about Michelle and Baby. Now it WILL be a problem because it is Bryan not responsible,only19 and with a low mental capasity. How can I keep my sanity,Marriage and child????
I am devistated. I have not read your book but, I’m sure it’s too late….Thank you
Marcia said
I sent you an email. I’m so sorry to hear about this difficulty. Please let me know if you don’t receive my note and keep us updated.
Avital said
Hi,
I just can’t believe it!!! I thought I have a great amazing 14 years old son, oh my G-D, please help me because I just don’t know what to do next. I went on my son Facebook, and saw a chatting he had with a girl from his school about me. It is horrible, you can’t even imagine, I just can’t believe it. I know it happen after a little argument we had, because he wasn’t respectful.My son and I have a great relationship, or maybe I thought we do. I’m a single mom, got divorce almost 4 years ago, their dad disappear few weeks ago, left the country with out any notice, back home. I’m devastated, what do I do next? Please help!!! I can’t even fall a sleep.
Marcia said
Avital,
I’m very sorry to read this post. It’s painful to know that your son has hurt your feelings like this, but you must be doing a good job. I know it doesn’t feel good right now, but consider that being a single parent is really hard and you’ve experienced abandonment by your husband, and you still wrote that you have a good relationship with your son.
Imagine what your son feels about his dad’s absence. Kids tend to think that everything is really their fault, and I’m wondering if he is really starting to blame you as someone has to be at fault, and it may be easier for him to blame you than his dad as dad isn’t around. Another thought: there is a certain pressure among teens to claim they dislike their parents when that’s not the case, but it helps you blend in with the teen crowd. Then they act another way at home.
I hope the blog is helpful, maybe the book would be helpful to gain perspective and tips. I would also sggest counseling for you individually and maybe the two of you as a family. If you’re not in a position to afford to pay, you can go to http://211.org as the United Way has a variety of agencies listed that can help at low/no cost.
Good luck, and let us know what happens.
Take care,
Marcia